Embrace an Intimate Life

Embrace an Intimate Life: Lessons from the Herd to Repair Our Relationships

Hosted at J Bar L Ranch, Centennial Valley, MT

July 16th – 18th, 2021

2 Spots are available!

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Embrace an Intimate Life: Lessons from the Herd to Repair Our Relationships

Over the last year of the pandemic, we’ve been forced to isolate ourselves from the world. For many of us, this has resulted in a major separation from a genuine sense of connection of all kinds – especially friendship and love. This would be hard on anyone, but is particularly challenging for people who already struggle to open themselves to relationships. 

When we experience betrayal, broken trust, or trauma – especially early in life – we develop strategies to help us avoid that pain from being repeated. Often, this results in actively pushing away human connection in order to hold on to a sense of safety. Unfortunately, it also creates a web of loneliness that both protects us and traps us. 

While we’re doing the best we can with the skills we have, with each generation we’re unknowingly passing down unresolved stumbling blocks when it comes to forming safe healthy relationships with one another. We are social beings that have a hardwired need for love, connection, and a true sense of belonging. In fact, our entire internal and external ecosystem thrives when we foster relationships of reciprocity. There’s never been a more potent and important time to heal the trauma and experiences that have kept you from healthy, meaningful relationships.

Discover what is possible when horses are the teachers. It’s time to move past old patterns of avoidance, disconnection, and isolation by exploring the key elements you need to be your whole self with others. During this retreat, you’ll experience the profound impact of Equus Coaching.  If you’ve ever thought to yourself that animals are easier to be around than people, that’s because they accept and love us completely – just as we are. This dynamic allows you to reengage in a sense of curiosity, prioritize what fosters a genuine sense of safety, and learn to communicate your needs, desires, and personal boundaries.

Over the last 15 years, I’ve been helping people shape a new path towards safe, nourishing relationships that enable them to thrive. This small group retreat, located on a breathtaking 20,000 acre ranch, will give you the space and tools you need to awaken the possibilities of love, intimacy, and trust in your life.  

Through interactive hands-on activities with horses and personal coaching, we’ll gently dissolve old stumbling blocks and help you embrace a whole new level of authentic connection with others.

I hope you will join me.

Embrace an Intimate Life


Retreat Benefits

Through safely guided exercises with horses, reflective meditation time with the herd, and restorative personal coaching with Koelle Simpson, you will:

  • Discover the common coping strategy that can prevent you from forming secure, consistent relationships.
  • Apply a new level of self awareness to support the key elements you need for meaningful connection
  • Learn to trust and honor your own personal truth.
  • Regain a healthy connection to your own needs and personal boundaries 
  • Reveal how the courage to allow yourself to deeply rest will give rise to new layers of curiosity, compassion, resilience, and a renewed capacity for intimacy
  • Uncover the immense wisdom of your emotions as a guide to help you stay connected with your needs in relationships.


Why Horses Embrace an Intimate Life

There is something about being with a horse that offers a powerful invitation to slow down, breath-in fully, become present, and connect with our whole hearts. One of the most powerful life lessons that horses offer us is that everything begins with exploring the relationship with ourselves.

Horses allow us to turn our attention inward to genuinely restore connection with ourselves and our instinctive wisdom. This permission to discover the subtleties of our own emotions, needs, and desires shows us what we truly need—in any moment—to feel safe enough to be utterly ourselves.


Come as You Are

No previous horse experience needed. No riding is ever required. All activities take place on the ground.

It’s even okay to be afraid of horses. If you feel pulled to attend this workshop, know that Koelle has years of experience gently and safely guiding participants at their personal level of comfort around horses.


Listen to the Recorded Call

Koelle recorded a live informational call on April 27th to discuss the many common challenges we face in relationships with one another and why it can feel difficult to cultivate an openhearted way of life. Free free to download the recording here and listen in. 

Retreat Agenda

Embrace an Intimate Life

Day 1 - Friday, July 16th, 2021

  • 4:30 PM – 6:00 PM | Arrival, check in and welcome
  • 6:30 PM – 7:30 PM | Group dinner with introductions, along with laughter and sharing of stories and personal intentions
Embrace an Intimate Life

Day 2 - Saturday, July 17th, 2021

  • 8:00 AM –  8:45 AM | Group breakfast
  • 9:00 AM – 12:30 PM | Interactive hands-on activities with horses & personal coaching
  • 12:30 PM – 1:30 PM | Group lunch
  • 1:30 PM – 4:30 PM |  Interactive hands-on activities with horses & personal coaching
  • 4:30 PM –  6:30 PM   | Break
  • 6:30 PM  –  7:30 PM  | Group dinner
Embrace an Intimate Life

Day 3 - Sunday, July 18th, 2021

  • 8:00 AM – 8:45 AM  | Group breakfast
  • 9:00 AM – 12:30 PM | Interactive hands-on activities with horses & personal coaching
  • 12:30 PM – 1:30 PM  | Group lunch
  • 1:30 PM – 4:30 PM | Interactive hands-on activities with horses & personal coaching
  • 4:30 PM –  6:30 PM   | Break
  • 6:30 PM  – 7:30 PM   | Group dinner
Embrace an Intimate Life

Day 4 - Monday, July 19th, 2021

  • 8:00 AM – 9:00 AM | Group breakfast, conclusion and departure
    • While the workshop concludes after breakfast—and check out time at the J Bar L Ranch is 10 AM—you’re encouraged to inquire with Ranch about extending your stay so that you have more time to further nurture yourself and integrate insights from the retreat while soaking in the magic of Montana’s wild landscapes.

Concerned about Covid-19?

We understand. You’re safety is a high priority. Thus we are taking precautions in order to gather safely:

  • Our group size will not exceed more than 10 participants. 
  • All of our activities will be organized outside. 
  • We’ll be masked and attentive to physical distancing as needed. 
  • We request that all participants submit a copy of a negative covid test 72 hours prior to the start of our gathering.
  • If you face the unfortunate event of becoming sick with covid-19 leading up to this event, we will make every effort to apply your retreat fee to a future program or virtual coaching support by Koelle Simpson.

Program Details & Registration

Retreat Dates: July 16th – 19th, 2021

Retreat pricing includes

  • Two full days of interactions with horses, small-group instruction and in-depth personal coaching with Koelle Simpson, as well as access to the beautiful grounds and facilities of J Bar L Ranch.
  • Tuition does not include your flights, transportation, or lodging accommodations. (See below for more information & to reserve your room.)
  • PLEASE NOTE: This retreat is currently sold out. New fall dates will be announced shortly. Join the interest list to be notified about future retreats

Retreat Pricing

  • $1400 per participant

Payment Options

  • One payment of $1400
  • 2 payments of $700 (plus merchant processing fee)

Lodging & Meals

  • Lodging $385 p.p/ per night. for private rooms
  • Your lodging fee above includes outstanding nourishing meals for breakfast, lunch and dinner.
  • Contact Paige Pitzer paige@jbarl.com at J Bar L Ranch directly to book your lodging or
     Call 406.240.0914

Cancellation Policy

Due to the costly, non-refundable nature of reserving venues for various events, and the limited spaces available in workshops and retreats, a cancellation made 60 days or less from the dates of an event is non-refundable. Fifty percent of the event fee will be refunded for a cancellation made between 90 to 61 days prior to a scheduled event. Any cancellation made 91 days prior to a scheduled event is fully refundable minus an administrative processing fee.

Please note that should an issue or challenge arise due to Covid-19 (either with travel restrictions or health matter) we will make every effort to apply your payment as a credit to a future retreat program.


Travel & Accommodation

The closest airport to J Bar L Ranch is the Idaho Falls Regional Airport (IDA). 

  • The drive from the airport to J Bar L takes about two hours. 
  • Part of the drive includes long dirt roads. Renting a car with 4WD is recommended.

The ranch is located in a gorgeous but remote area, thus onsite lodging at the J Bar L Ranch is required. Lodging rates (which include all your nutritious, delicious onsite meals during your stay) are: 

  • $385 per person, per night for a private room. 

To reserve your room:
Contact Paige Pitzer paige@jbarl.com at J Bar L Ranch or
Call directly at 406.240.0914.
Please also inform Paige of any dietary preferences and/or restrictions.

Extend Your Self-Care Adventure 

You’re encouraged to ask about arriving a day or two early or staying on a day or two after the retreat. On the ranch, you can also enjoy: 

  • Birding and wildlife viewing
  • Sunset strolls and nature walks
  • Mountain biking and hiking
  • Guided hiking and on-site tours with local birders and geologists
  • Wildlife and nature photography
  • Backcountry fishing opportunities
  • Kayaking and canoeing

Also, consider a visit to Yellowstone National Park (a 2.5 hour drive)


What Clients Say

“The Return to the Heart Retreat had a positive impact on me. It made my heart and smile expand. It made the lessons I have learned over my life move from my mind into my heart. I now have a deeper understanding of what matters in my life.

I loved the animals—relating how they interact with each other with how we, humans, could do the same in our life. Sharing our experiences on game drives was an intimate way to help me open up to ways I can grow. It opened my mind to new perspectives on life and helped me with some of my blindspots. It especially help me pause in my habitual response to always wanting to be right.”

Pat J.

“I had a lot of awareness rise up. I observed how people would drop into fear over what they thought the animals might do instead of watching what they were actually doing. That has been a big lesson for me: when you let fear take over, you lose the ability to track the energy, moment by moment. You are instead in a pattern of fear and that distorts what is actually happening.”

Angela W.

“ChiGong, the game drives, sharing and learning from each other and feeling supported throughout along with Koelle’s strength, warmth, wisdom, and clarity made the experience very rich and powerful for me. Realizing I am not alone in facing life’s challenges—we all have trauma to resolve and need to learn to love ourselves and find inner peace. Authenticity. Koelle’s deep involvement and genuine support helped to challenge my well-worn (destructive) behavioral patterns while offering a new way of seeing and moving forward with a positive outlook and energy.

The small group size made it possible for everyone to have individual attention and coaching. There was nothing “boilerplate” or “standardized” in Koelle’s approach. She touched all of our hearts in an individual and very personal way. Incredible.”

Carolyn J.

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